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Should you help your children buy a home?

Should You Help Your Children Buy A Home? | Middletons Solicitors | Andover Solicitors 

New research by the Joseph Rowntree Foundation says a further 1.5million people aged 18-30 will be forced into renting in the next eight years. The number who can’t afford to leave their parents’ home is expected to rise by half a million to 3.7million over the same period.

It makes grim reading for both generations and it is little wonder that many parents feel compelled to help their children buy a home, but they need to think carefully before going ahead.

Everyone’s circumstances will differ but as a general rule, parents should avoid dipping into their retirement funds to help their children. A lot of things can go wrong. If you are handing over money, even as a loan, you should be able to stand losing it if the worst comes to the worst.

You should also be certain that you are helping for the right reasons. If your children are financially responsible and can afford to repay a mortgage but just can’t raise a deposit then it may make good sense to help them.

However, if they haven’t been sensible with money then you may need to make some checks.

For example, if your children can’t get a mortgage then you need to find out why. Get them to check their credit rating and show it to you. Ask to see pay cheques and bank accounts if necessary. This may seem severe but there’s a lot at stake. Think of it as tough love.

After all, if they’re struggling financially already, giving them the responsibility of a mortgage they can’t afford will only add to their problems. It may be that helping them to pay off credit card debt may be more of a priority.

Once you decide to go ahead there are various ways you can help. Most parents do so by making a contribution towards the deposit for a mortgage. You could simply give them the money, but if you want it to be repaid at some point in the future, you should draw up a written agreement so everyone knows where they stand.

This is important because memories get blurred over time.

The agreement should include details of the repayment schedule, preferably with a ‘promissory note’ so it’s a proper formal arrangement. You may also want to draw up a deed of trust outlining how much you have contributed to the purchase so you can get your money back when your child sells the property in the future.

If you are buying a home and renting it back to your children, make sure you can meet the repayments if they can’t. Otherwise, you may have to sell at a loss.

If you don’t have enough money to help, you could borrow money using your own home as security, but this carries considerable risks as you could lose your home if you cannot meet the repayments.

You could consider a guarantor mortgage. This would enable your income to be taken into account when assessing your child’s mortgage. However, you would be liable for the repayments if your child defaulted. The same would apply to joint mortgages.

It’s only natural that parents should wish to help but they must do so for the right reasons and in the right circumstances. If you get it right it could help your children build a brighter future; if you get it wrong, it could lead to financial hardship and even family splits in years to come.

Please contact our Property Experts Ingrid Hindle or Jo Ayrton in our Warminster office, or Sandra Smith in our Westbury office on 01985 214444 or 01373 865577  or by email:;;  if you would like more information about the issues raised in this article or any aspect of buying and selling a home.

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Just a short note to once again express my sincere thanks to you, Sue and the M&U team, for all your help, cooperation and first class professional support. I am most grateful to you all.

Chris Stephenson, Warminster

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